Sekufu Dan Hubungannya Dalam Membina Persefahaman Antara Suami Isteri
Compatibility And Its Role In Building Understanding Between Husband And Wife
Keywords:
Religion, Occupation, Understanding, Household, CompatibilityAbstract
Understanding is one of the crucial aspects of a household. The failure of married couples to establish understanding can lead to continuous conflicts within the family. This is supported by statistics from the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) through the Fifth Malaysian Population and Family Study (KPKM-5), which found that one of the main factors contributing to divorces is the lack of understanding between spouses. There are numerous factors that contribute to the misunderstandings between husband and wife, and one of them is the selection of incompatible partners, characterised by significant differences between the two individuals. Therefore, this study aims to examine the role of compatibility (in terms of religion and occupation) in shaping the understanding between married couples. This qualitative study utilises interview methods with five experts, including Shariah officers, Islamic Affairs officers, and family counselors. The data obtained is analysed using content analysis methods. The study results indicate a high correlation between understanding among couples and compatibility.
Abstrak
Persefahaman merupakan antara perkara penting dalam rumah tangga. Kegagalan pasangan suami isteri mewujudkan persefahaman akan menyebabkan berlakunya konflik rumah tangga secara berterusan. Ini dibuktikan dengan statistik dari Lembaga Penduduk dan Pembangunan Keluarga Negara (LPPKN) menerusi Kajian Penduduk dan Keluarga Malaysia Kelima (KPKM-5) mendapati antara faktor utama berlakunya perceraian adalah kerana tidak wujud persefahaman antara suami isteri. Terdapat banyak faktor yang mendorong terjadi ketidakfahaman antara suami isteri dan salah satunya adalah disebabkan pemilihan pasangan yang tidak sekufu iaitu mempunyai jurang perbezaan yang sangat ketara antara kedua-dua pasangan. Justeru kajian ini bertujuan untuk melihat peranan sekufu (aspek agama dan pekerjaan) dalam membentuk persefahaman antara pasangan suami isteri. Kajian ini merupakan kajian kualitatif dengan menggunakan kaedah temu bual kepada lima orang pakar yang terdiri daripada Pegawai Syariah, Pegawai Hal Ehwal Islam dan kaunselor rumah tangga. Data yang diperolehi dianalisis menggunakan kaedah analisis kandungan. Hasil kajian mendapati persefahaman antara pasangan mempunyai korelasi yang tinggi dengan sekufu.
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